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Remember it's ‘YOU’ talking to yourself and ‘YOU’ are listening to yourself.

Updated: Sep 10, 2022


Every person has an inner critic. This tiny voice can occasionally be beneficial and keep us motivated toward our goals, such as when it warns us that the food we're going to eat is unhealthy or that the action we're about to take might not be a good idea. However, this voice can frequently do more harm than good, especially when it descends into overwhelming criticism. This is referred to as negative self-talk, and it can really bring us down and be very depressing.


Most people occasionally engage in negative self-talk, and it can take many different forms. If we're not careful, it may also cause a lot of stress for both us and those around us. Here's all you need to know about negative self-talk and how it affects your body, mind, life, and loved ones. There are several ways to engage in negative self-talk. In some cases, it can sound reasonable ("I'm not good at this, so I should avoid trying it for my own personal safety," for example), but in others, it can come across as blatantly cruel ("I can never do anything well!"). It may seem like a reasonable assessment of the circumstance ( "On this test, I scored a C. I assume I'm not very good at arithmetic," only for it to turn into a fantasy based on dread (" I'll never be able to attend a decent college.")

Your inner critic could sound very similar to a judgmental parent or former best friend from your past. It may proceed along the lines of common cognitive distortions, such as catastrophizing, blaming, and so forth.

Negative self-talk basically refers to any inner conversation you have with yourself that can be preventing you from believing in your own abilities and potential. Any thinking that undermines your capacity to alter your life for the better or your belief in your own power to do so is a negative thought. Negative self-talk can therefore seriously hinder your success in addition to being stressful.


Well in my experience of treating people, I saw them fighting with fear, anger, anxiety, guilt, shame, or regret, and all of these lead to a ‘NEGATIVE IMPACT’ on your mind, body, heart, and soul. So, as Hayes quoted “Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening”, I firmly agree with this line, it not only leads to mental deterioration but physical deterioration.

People who constantly talk to themselves negatively tend to be under higher pressure. This is large because their reality has been changed to make it so that they are unable to accomplish the objectives they have set for themselves.

Lemme tell you the consequences:-

  • Having a limited perspective causes you to believe something more and more as you keep telling yourself you can't.

  • You start to truly think that "improvement" is inferior to "perfect" and that perfection is actually possible. Simply high performers, on the other hand, frequently outperform their perfectionistic colleagues since they are typically less stressed and content with a job well done. They don't analyze it in detail and try to pinpoint improvements.